Popular sex guru gives talk at UPAA event

Sex guru Dr. Margie Holmes
autographs copies of her book.

 By Daisy CL Mandap

“In the past, practically everyone said there was a GSpot (erogenous zone in the female genitalia). Twenty five years later, experts say it doesn’t exist”.

“The plumbing is just part of this (becoming pregnant). Studies in fact show that students who had sex education tend to delay having sex”.

“Virginity does not matter, but it’s not a state of mind”.

“The Philippines is one of the few countries where the number of HIV cases is increasing. Pregnancy and childbirth are no longer the issues”.

“I once asked how many couples made love at least once a week? Once a month? Twice a month? There was a guy who was all smiles and said he and his wife did it once a year. I asked if that was the case, how come he looked so happy? His answer: Because tonight is the night!”

Except for the last, which was meant as a joke, all the statements above were said in earnest by Dr. Margie Holmes, the celebrated Filipino sex guru and writer who visited Hong Kong recently as a guest of the local chapter of the University of the Philippines Alumni Association.

Congen Bernie Catalla inducts new officers of UPAA-HK.

Her talk on Jan. 20 coincided with the swearing-in of the new UPAA-HK officers with Consul General Bernardita Catalla administering the oath. The new officers are: Patrick Angco, president; Elmer Magsino, vice president; Karen Echavez, secretary; Carlo Mendoza, treasurer; Gelica Lomibao, auditor; and Cathe Marsden, PRO.

Dr. Holmes’s no-holds-barred talk covered a range of issues, from the GSpot (used as the titillating title for the UPAA event), to early gender identification, sexual exploitation of minors and sex education at schools.

When a question was raised regarding gender identification among children, Dr Holmes called on Brenda Alegre, a lecturer on gender studies at the University of Hong Kong, to help provide answers.

Alegre, who introduced herself as a trans-woman, said gender is self determined and not assigned.
“(So) we should stop gendering toys, colors, even names,” she said.

The gathering was held to also launch four books written by Dr. Holmes, including the the 25th anniversary edition of her much-talked about “Life, Love, Lust”. The others are “Down to 1 (Depression Stories); “Love Triangles” and “Imported Love”.

Dr. Holmes, a clinical pscyhologist, is the author of 18 books, several of which she co-authored with her husband, Jeremy Baer. She is currently a columnist for Rappler, Abante and Abante Tonight.